Shabana Azmi shares the ‘magic trick’ that Javed Akhtar taught her to resolve their fights: ‘It’s a mantra that all couples should exercise’ - The Indian Express

Shabana Azmi and Javed Akhtar have been married for almost four decades and they often speak about their friendship that has been the bedrock of their marriage. In a recent chat, Shabana shared the “magic trick” that Javed taught her for them to have a lasting relationship. Shabana shared that having almost the same upbringing and the same worldview has made their marriage comfortable but despite that, like all relationships, they do indulge in ugly fights but they have a way of resolving them that has become the mantra of their marriage.

Shabana told Pinkvilla, “There’s a magic trick that he has taught me. He said, ‘When we are really angry with each other, either one of us should say drop it and the other should drop it.’ Because what happens is when you are angry, you say things that you later regret.” She said that they drop the fight as soon as one of them says the magic words, and later revisit the subject when they are in a calmer state. She continued. “Revisit it when we are not as angry and let me tell you, it is a mantra which I think all couples should exercise because if you drop it then, and by dropping I mean you should not sulk, just drop it. Revisit it when both of you are in a calmer state of mind, it just works.”

Shabana Azmi shared that the “strength” of their relationship is the “friendship” they share with each other. “I think we are each other’s best friends and also the worldview is the same. The kind of background we come from (is the same). Humari toh arranged marriage honi chahiye thi (We should have had an arranged marriage),” she said.

The actor also shared that respect plays an important role in their relationship. “I think respect has to be the fulcrum on which a relationship can be focused and then based.” Earlier, in a chat with Bollywood Bubble, Javed Akhtar had said that he and Shabana are best friends and said that “living with an independent, strong minded woman is not a bed of roses,” and added that in such cases, when you are pushing your partner and they are pushing you, it is a partnership between equals.

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